I.Am.Shontae.: Sexual Abuse

Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse is the forcing of undesired sexual behavior by one person upon another, when that force is immediate, short duration, or infrequent, it is called sexual assault. www.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_abuse

Sexual abuse encompasses any form of degradation, manipulation, for or control of sex. For the abuser, sex is the way that he or she establishes power and dominance in the relationship. Many sex abusers see their partners as sex objects and they depersonalize their partners. Some sexual abusers can only become sexually excited when they use force, degradation or violence on their partners. Many are not faithful to their partners.
Sexual abuse will sometimes go hand in hand with physical abuse. Sometimes sexual abuse may occur after a physical assault, or the physical abuse as part of sexual abuse.

Many times a sexual abuser is very jealous. They may be extremely suspicious of what his or her partner does on a daily basis, may accuse his or her partner of flirting or infidelity. They may also become jealous with any relationship their partner has, be it with a friend, co-worker, clergy, or relative, even over someone their partner may have come in contact with only once, such as at a store, post office or at a social event.

Consequences of sexual abuse.

Depending on the seriousness, the duration and the sort of abuse, those who are abused retain certain problems due to this trauma. These can be divided into psychological, social, sexual and physical problems.
psychological problems:
Fears, panic attacks, sleeping problems, nightmares, irritability, outbursts of anger and sudden shock reactions when being touched.
Little confidence, and self-respect for one's own body may change.
Behavior that harms the body: addiction to alcohol and other substances, excessive work or sports, depression, self-destruction and prostitution.
social problems:
have little confidence in other people.
fear of loss of control in relationships.
sexual problems:
while making love, problems occur. The partner may be confused by a certain remark, touch, or behavior that brings back memories of the abuse.
Patients sometimes don't want to make love at all anymore or make love less.
Sexual relation problems may occur, together with pain while making love, not wanting to make love and problems in getting aroused, orgasm.
physical complaints:
abdominal pain, pain while making love, menstrual pain, intestinal complaints, stomach ache, nausea, headache, back pain, painful shoulders, in short all kinds of chronic pain may occur, inexplicably.

Eating disorders often occur.

The abused deny or repress the harmful event(s). They don't want to talk about or avoid certain situations.

Domestic violence is a pervasive problem in virtually all countries, cultures, classes and income groups. It is a complex and multifaceted problem with individual solutions that are appropriate for different women in different socio-cultural contexts.
Support can come in various forms:

Crisis intervention: